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BIG Emotions Bothering You? Try a Ritual!

Some people have emotions that are steady and manageable. Some people are never knocked over by their emotions. NOT ME. I’ve always had BIG emotions. And not in a bad way—I love a lot, so that brings BIG pain. Sometimes the pain comes when I lose someone, and sometimes it’s just because they are in pain. I feel things. Patriarchy…

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COVID You Thief!

COVID, you thief! You robbed me and I’m mad.  I tell myself to be grateful because I still have a job. Grateful my family is safe and healthy. Grateful for so much. . .  And I AM grateful. I recognize my privilege. But the grateful feelings don’t cancel out the anger.  I AM grateful.  At the same time, I am…

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A Crown of Beauty for Ashes

Many of you know that for the first 8.5 weeks of the pandemic, my husband and I were separated. We lost his dad and he went to Syria to grieve. No one could have predicted border and airport closures. He returned to us one month ago. . The challenges of those weeks were innumerable. I focused on my job and…

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Black Lives, Enneagrams, and Intentions 

Today, I’m raising my voice for black lives—here is why I haven’t before and why I do now. Let’s start with personality. Some students think I’m an enneagram 8, the Challenger.  I’m not. I’m a 1, the Reformer (I prefer “Reformer” to “Perfectionist” because I like to deny my ugly truth).  Since I’m a strong, bold, teacher, my students  think…

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How About a Divorce Ceremony?

“No one who walks down the aisle hopes to divorce in the future. But statistically many American marriages end in divorce. While divorce may be a relief, it is also filled with pain and questions. We need to pastor divorced people in a way that ensures they find peace with God and other Christians. Besides counsel and other help, we…

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The Book of Womanhood

I wrote a book that I wish someone had written for me. A book to help me at each transition, to encourage me when I need it, to empower me to be the woman God created me to be in all ways. . .  I offer you that book. And in doing so, I invite you into my journey of transformation.…

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Let’s Sing Songs about Biblical Women!

I grew up on kids’ Bible songs. I walked and lept around the living room as we sang about the healing of the lame man. I hit hits my fists together to show how “The Wise man Built his House” and I joined my hands over my head to show that “His Banner over me is love.” Even today, my…

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EverBloom

I’m part of a writers’ group called Redbud Writers’ Guild. We put together a beautiful book of essays that challenge, inspire, and create; we call it Everbloom: Stories of Living Deeply Rooted and Transformed Lives. My personal Contribution is entitled, “When I Wanted Someone to Complete Me.” Redbud Writers published a preview here, and I highly recommend the book! Check out…

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The Wonder Years

This is a beautiful collection of essays by famous authors like Brene Brown, Lauren Winner, Kynne Hybels, Joni Eareckson Tada, and Madeleine L’Engle. I also got to make a contribution! My essay is entitled, “The Fetters and Freedom of Family.” I tell the story of having my first babies after I turned 40. From the back cover: We’re all getting…

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