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I Am An Egalitarian Woman Who Dated A Complementarian Man

Since I (Amy) am a scant week postpartum, I’m hosting blogger and Nyack alum, Anel Vicente today! Her story is powerful and moving. . . I am an Egalitarian woman who dated a Complementarian man. This one difference led to the demise of our relationship. Saying a relationship did not work out because of theological disagreements seems so ignorant to…

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Stop Hiding Your Femininity. God is Feminine, Too.

Someday, I will get to the Vatican. I just know it. I’ll stroll through St. Peter’s square, tour the museum, and visit the library. I’ll also pray in the Sistine Chapel, overshadowed by Michelangelo’s famous painting of a male God with flowing white hair, a long beard, and a muscular body. Historical artistic depictions portray a masculine God, but if…

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I Want to be Here for This.

Do you ever miss things because of the distractions of life? Have you found yourself washing the dishes rather than watching the moonrise, zoning out to the TV rather than being fully in the presence of your roommate or spouse, texting rather than discovering new bugs with a child? I do. I miss things that are important because I’m on…

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Why Jealousy Made the Bible’s Top Ten

I’ve often wondered why “thou shalt not covet” is on that list of ten commandments. It seems so much less important than actions like killing, lying, and the like. Why is coveting, wanting what someone else has, being jealous, even on that list? I mean, if we were to make a list of ten things we really, really didn’t want people…

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We All Give Life—What’s Your Story?

I’ve completed 38 of 40 weeks, so the birth/life-giving process is understandably high in my mind. I want to write of how I gave physical birth two years ago, but relate it to how we give life to so many things—projects, inventions, programs, more. . . and the world would be better if we told our stories. I waited a…

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In this Season of Waiting. . . I Want to Wait Well

I don’t know about you, but I don’t much like waiting. I don’t like waiting in lines, so I shop on off-hours and avoid amusement parks. I don’t like waiting for the bread to rise, so I tend to bake it too soon—every time! I don’t like waiting for others, so I blaze ahead—often to my detriment. I especially don’t…

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Why Online Dating Might be Right for You

A sheepish smile used to accompany the answer, “We met online,” since there was confusion as to whether it was a good way to meet people. No longer. In fact, it seems to be an incredibly common way for adults to meet one another and date. Online dating’s been around for a while. I think it started with EHarmony’s promise…

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Go to Bed Angry

When I was a child, my mother taught me never to “let the sun go down” on my anger (Eph 4:26). That meant asking for forgiveness before I turned the lights off and reconciling with my siblings before we slept. And then I got married. And my husband and I were sometimes unable to work it out, even in the…

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So You Want to Be Happy?

I’ve had many Christians tell me that happiness and joy are different. They say that joy is something we can always have, but happiness is solely based on circumstances. I get it. Joy is deeper than happiness. But I also think they are totally and completely inked to one another. To think that I could be full of joy and…

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Sex, Self-Control, and Doing What We Want

I’m of the opinion that, in general, we do what we want to do, we avoid what we dislike, and, if you look at how we spend our time, you can see our priorities: we do what we value. Certainly some actions are done out of obligation, but most of us feel free enough to regularly reject obligation in favor…

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