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Raise Your Voice With Me

Being silenced is terrible. I know too many who have been silenced by experiences that have taken their voice; some were not allowed to tell their story of abuse, others’ stories were stifled or not believed, and still others were silenced in different ways. And that silencing affects all uses of their voice. In order to regain the use of…

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Reverse “The Curse”

On Learning to Celebrate My Period Thoughts of menstruation take me back to that fated day when I first bled. I can still feel my anger and confusion. It was not a long-awaited sign of adulthood for me; rather, it felt dirty, shameful, and unwelcome. I deeply disliked the bodily experience that I would share with women everywhere, that would…

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The ART of Marriage

I’m only 3.5 years into my marriage, so really not far, but would you allow me to share some thoughts on what I think helps? I’m sure I have a lot more to learn, but I think we function best when we realize that marriage is an ART. Yes, ART as something beautiful that never feels done (and honestly, doesn’t always feel…

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Breaking Up Is Good (too)

The purity culture of my youth tells me that the best love story is the one where I marry the first man I ever date. To my chagrin, I have a messy break-up with that athletic high school boy that I loved. Will I forever have second best? My sister meets a man in college, dates and marries him. As…

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Give up Coffee?

When I was growing up, I thought Lent was just something Roman Catholics did—my friends gave up chocolate, and I judged them for being legalistic. My church was clearly better—perfectly disconnected from the church calendar, our Holy Week was simply two Sunday services. I had no idea what I was missing! In college, a few friends challenged me to try…

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Weep For It

Today, friends, we ponder our death, we ponder our mortality, we ponder our sin. Perhaps some of you want to jump right to forgiveness, thinking that pondering our sin is legalistic, that thinking about death is depressing, that confessing our sin is hardly necessary. I implore you, this morning, to consider that just as Christ was in the tomb for three days…

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Grateful. . .

When I’m depressed, angry, and ready to quit, I get this little red book out. Sometimes I have to get it out every day for months; other times, months pass without needing it. It’s my gratefulness journal. It was inspired by Ann Voskamp’s One Thousand Gifts (here’s her website). I read the book and bought this moleskin journal. My gratefulness…

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Hope is a VERB

Hope is a verb. It’s not something we have. It’s something we do. And sometimes it’s one of the hardest verbs—it ranks right up there with endure, persevere, suffer. In the midst of long singleness, we hope for a partner. . . Faced with infertility, we hope for a baby. . . In sickness, we hope for healing. . . When unemployed, we…

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Jesus, Women, Faith

The Gospels do not depict any faithless women. Think about it for a moment. . . or two. . . Can you think of any? In fact, though the gospels depict Jesus citing several faithless acts of male disciples (think Peter), no specific example exists of faithless women. Certainly, when Jesus addresses all his disciples as having little faith, women…

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Freeze My Eggs Part 2

When it’s hard to get or stay pregnant, everything feels heavy. It’s heavy emotionally, it’s heavy physically—especially after miscarriage, it’s heavy financially if one considers any type of treatment, in all, it’s heavily disappointing. Last week I asked, “Why can I freely prevent conception and yet if I’m infertile only conceive at great personal cost?” Check it out here. This week,…

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