Today I’m hosting Ann Duncan, a fabulous friend and current seminary student. She asks the question, “What is femininity?” and comes up with a non-boxy answer. Here’s her take.
Every day I wake up to different voices on the tv, radio, ads online pulling me towards their style and type of woman, but what does it really mean to be feminine?
Personally this has been a question I have struggled with since my days in University when my outward style was vastly different from the style of the women around me. Did this make me less feminine than them? Was my lack of makeup and leggings to class an indicator that I was less of a woman? Is being a woman only external, indicated in the way we dress, or is it in our heart?
From a cultural standpoint all you have to do is wait one season to see that fashion and the culture around femininity is always in flux. “Eye-brows!” “Florals!” “Bright lips!” “Nude lips!” “Push-up Bras!” “Block colors!” We hear and see these in the check out isles, and I admit to having bought the mascara that will give me sexy eyelashes. But there’s so much more to being feminine than what meets the eye.
What if we chose to believe that it isn’t what we put on that makes us feminine, but instead it is how God made us? Femininity is something unique to each of us and cannot be measured by our styles. In the moments of doubt and insecurity, like when I show up in the wrong clothes for an occasion, like when sequin dresses were not the standard at that New Years Eve Party.It isn’t what we put on that makes us feminine, but instead it is how God made us @amannduncan Click To Tweet
I’ll admit to loving sequins, really anything that sparkles, but I also love hiking and doing pretty much anything in the water. Truth is, none of us are defined by one thing, whether it be our eye-brows, our breasts or our like or dislike for makeup. God made each and every person, including women, unique. There is a liberty that comes with believing what God says about us; that no part of us is a mistake, and every aspect of who we are has been created to reflect God. But, only if we choose to listen to God’s voice above the voices that surround us every day.
When we choose to listen to who God says we are we get to participate in something bigger than ourselves. It isn’t easy to believe that there isn’t one definition for femininity, but instead it is as dynamic as each woman who breathes air with us. It is dynamic because it is defined by a God who has created each woman, each person, fearfully and wonderfully. We get to choose to listen to the big voice that tells us the truth about the freedom we have, or we can listen to all the voices that try to constrain and confine us to who they think we should be.Femininity is as dynamic as each woman who breathes air with us @amannduncan Click To Tweet
Wear makeup, don’t wear makeup. It’s up to you. Love sparkles and love camping, why not? Ride a Harley, get your nails done, get dirt underneath them, dye your hair, go bald, big earrings, no tattoos, at the end of the day the big voice calls you to be you. Because as much and as often as we as women are pushed, pulled, tugged and thrown around by what’s expected of us there is the voice of the big God who is reminding us that he created us each on purpose for a purpose.At the end of the day the big voice calls you to be you @amannduncan Click To Tweet
Hi there, my name is Ann. One of my deepest joys is the adventure of finding out more about how we each fit into the grand story that is playing out around us. An adventurer at heart there are some things that will always make me feel at home, laughter, good conversation and stories. It’s an honor to get to hear people’s stories and encourage them to continue on their journey. Follow me on instagram @amannduncan