She recommended I freeze my eggs.
I was 35, very single, and my gynecologist told me to freeze.
I considered it.
I’d always wanted a baby, and I didn’t want to miss my chance. I’d also always wanted a husband, and that wasn’t guaranteed.
So, I considered freezing. She told me it was only about $6000.
I couldn’t afford that. I couldn’t afford the technology to help me have a baby in the future.
But if I want to stop having babies, that’s free. It’s every woman’s right to not have a baby if she doesn’t want to, even after she’s conceived.
On the other side, then, why isn’t it every woman’s right to have a baby?
Now, I realize that there’s more going on here than that bare question. Many have ethical questions when we think about single women, lesbians, or women in other circumstances who want to have babies in our society. Many have ethical questions concerning the technology used in these cases. But can we simply ask the question?Why can I freely prevent conception and yet if I’m infertile only conceive at great personal cost? Click To Tweet
Last fall, Intel joined Apple and Facebook to cover the cost of egg freezing for their employees, and NPR ran a story on it. It reminded me of the time I was encouraged to freeze.
We don’t know who will use coverage, but regardless of their marital state, it’s offered. For all, its purpose is to delay childbearing, regardless of whether the woman has a partner, or even desires one for her child.
In many senses, I applaud these technology companies for their coverage. In other senses it brings up many other questions that we can chat about next week.