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Praying in the New Year

It was New Year’s Eve, 1995. I had just graduated from college that May and moved to Asunción Paraguay in July for my first adult job as a kindergarten teacher.  It was summer in the southern hemisphere, and we were on summer break at a time when I was used to cold temperatures and piles of snow in my native New…

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Woman Rite of Passage

History

When Wanda Velez, Wanda Walborn, and I met in the fall of 2010 to plan a rite of passage for spring, 2011, I didn’t even dream that Woman would grow to be a year-long process, produce a two journal articles and The Book of Womanhood, and form a strong community of 20 mentors, 83 alumnae, and 15 current participants.  We started small! Women…

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Marriage: There Are No Ideals

My Christian subculture tells me that the best marriage is one where the husband and wife lead ministry together. Anything else is somehow sub-par. Following this, I always wanted to marry a pastor. I thought it would be the ideal life—we’d minister together and God would be glorified. Then I dated a pastor, and it’s not all it’s cracked up…

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On Graduation—Completing and Beginning

Each year, I walk down the aisle in cap and gown, then watch and cheer for the graduating class. As I look out at the sea of young and not-so-young faces, I think about what lies behind and what lies ahead. Graduation is called commencement—it’s a completing and a beginning. I’ve completed and begun a few times in my life:…

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Why Single People Make Great Pastors

She said they are hesitant to promote her to the student pastor position because she is unmarried. She has a four-year pastoral ministry degree, has worked for years in student ministry at this egalitarian church, but she is about to be passed over for a man who is just graduating, but has an unaccredited ordination and a wedding band. But…

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The ART of Marriage

I’m only 3.5 years into my marriage, so really not far, but would you allow me to share some thoughts on what I think helps? I’m sure I have a lot more to learn, but I think we function best when we realize that marriage is an ART. Yes, ART as something beautiful that never feels done (and honestly, doesn’t always feel…

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Weep For It

Today, friends, we ponder our death, we ponder our mortality, we ponder our sin. Perhaps some of you want to jump right to forgiveness, thinking that pondering our sin is legalistic, that thinking about death is depressing, that confessing our sin is hardly necessary. I implore you, this morning, to consider that just as Christ was in the tomb for three days…

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Woman Rite of Passage

Rite of Passage Process

The Woman Rite of Passage process has 4 primary stages. . .  STAGE 1: BECOMING A PARTICIPANT Even before the first meeting, Woman participants take initiative and show commitment and courage. They first take an online survey that gets them thinking about their personal relationships with God, self, others, and creation. We then contact them for an interview that is…

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