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Tired of Comparison? Embrace Your Own Journey!

Though some might look at my life’s journey and consider it great, I am unfortunately more attuned to what I do not have than to what I have. Many times I would have traded my years of single adventures for a family, and my drivenness for a more relaxed life. Certain events I wish had never occurred, and other hoped-for…

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Unequally Yoked

When I was dating, there was a lot of thought about finding my equal. . . No, not my equal. In fact, I was looking for my superior, for that was what I was told I needed as my “spiritual head.” (never mind the fact that “spiritual head” is not actually a biblical phrase, or that “head” often means “source”…

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Romantic Comedy Mythology

Dear Movie Producers: You have really messed up my understanding of romantic relationships. I am not a movie buff, but I like movies, and am deeply affected by what I see. Honestly, I have a hard time separating movies (and books, for that matter) from reality. I feel like the actors and characters are my friends, or myself, and that…

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On Graduation—Completing and Beginning

Each year, I walk down the aisle in cap and gown, then watch and cheer for the graduating class. As I look out at the sea of young and not-so-young faces, I think about what lies behind and what lies ahead. Graduation is called commencement—it’s a completing and a beginning. I’ve completed and begun a few times in my life:…

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Reverse “The Curse”

On Learning to Celebrate My Period Thoughts of menstruation take me back to that fated day when I first bled. I can still feel my anger and confusion. It was not a long-awaited sign of adulthood for me; rather, it felt dirty, shameful, and unwelcome. I deeply disliked the bodily experience that I would share with women everywhere, that would…

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Weep For It

Today, friends, we ponder our death, we ponder our mortality, we ponder our sin. Perhaps some of you want to jump right to forgiveness, thinking that pondering our sin is legalistic, that thinking about death is depressing, that confessing our sin is hardly necessary. I implore you, this morning, to consider that just as Christ was in the tomb for three days…

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About Me

Welcome. I’m glad you’ve stopped by! I wish we could sit down and chat with a warm cup of coffee and some fresh chocolate chip cookies. I wish you were stopping by my little apartment with its view of the Hudson river. I’d ask you questions about life, we’d get deep, and then my son would wake up, come out, smile,…

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