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Masturbation in Theology Class

Just last week, I was waxing eloquent on the theological meaning of our human bodies, the impact of physicality on spirituality and vice versa, the importance of listening to our bodies and giving them what they need. . . And then it came up. By “it,” I mean a question about masturbation. She raised her hand and asked, “If we’re…

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Modesty Is For Me, Not You.

There it was, in the middle of a Christian book on young women’s sexuality. The Modesty Chapter. And there it was again, a call to dress for others. Mother told Daughter she couldn’t go out in public “like that” because the boys would be staring at her boobs. Now, I didn’t see what Daughter wore—perhaps it was totally inappropriate. But…

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MOMMYGUILT vs. Trust

MOMMYGUILT Yes, I think it should be one word. And yes, I think it should be all CAPS. Because sometimes it feels monolithic and threatens to take over. Before I pushed a child into this world, I felt guilt every now and then, but NOW, NOW a slight action or inaction can bring about a physical pang of MOMMYGUILT. I…

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The ART of Marriage

I’m only 3.5 years into my marriage, so really not far, but would you allow me to share some thoughts on what I think helps? I’m sure I have a lot more to learn, but I think we function best when we realize that marriage is an ART. Yes, ART as something beautiful that never feels done (and honestly, doesn’t always feel…

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Breaking Up Is Good (too)

The purity culture of my youth tells me that the best love story is the one where I marry the first man I ever date. To my chagrin, I have a messy break-up with that athletic high school boy that I loved. Will I forever have second best? My sister meets a man in college, dates and marries him. As…

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About Me

Welcome. I’m glad you’ve stopped by! I wish we could sit down and chat with a warm cup of coffee and some fresh chocolate chip cookies. I wish you were stopping by my little apartment with its view of the Hudson river. I’d ask you questions about life, we’d get deep, and then my son would wake up, come out, smile,…

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New Year Hope

2015 was a year of survival for me. When New Year’s rolled around a year ago, I made no resolutions—just hoped to survive the first year of my baby’s life, the transition back to work, the changes in my marriage and family, the freezing cold winter. I was still up several times a night and was dealing with mommy-guilt about…

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Book of Womanhood Reviews

Janice Stewart Peterson

When I was a young woman, it was normal to take time to contemplate my purpose and explore my identity. As years advanced, however, bad habits and wrong thinking went unchecked; I found myself trapped in ruts, feeling discouraged and uninspired.  This is why Davis Abdallah’s book, The Book of Womanhood, is so important for women of all ages.  For me,…

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Murkiness is Good

‪#‎MurkyMonday‬ Sometimes murkiness is good. My new netflix addiction is “Madam Secretary” about an ex-CIA woman who becomes Secretary of State. While I can’t agree with all of its foreign policy stances or portrayals, I find it fun to watch. In Episode 10 (S1), Madam Secretary tells her 20-year-old daughter a terrible story of how she allowed someone to be…

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