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I Am An Egalitarian Woman Who Dated A Complementarian Man

Since I (Amy) am a scant week postpartum, I’m hosting blogger and Nyack alum, Anel Vicente today! Her story is powerful and moving. . . I am an Egalitarian woman who dated a Complementarian man. This one difference led to the demise of our relationship. Saying a relationship did not work out because of theological disagreements seems so ignorant to…

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Why Online Dating Might be Right for You

A sheepish smile used to accompany the answer, “We met online,” since there was confusion as to whether it was a good way to meet people. No longer. In fact, it seems to be an incredibly common way for adults to meet one another and date. Online dating’s been around for a while. I think it started with EHarmony’s promise…

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Sex, Self-Control, and Doing What We Want

I’m of the opinion that, in general, we do what we want to do, we avoid what we dislike, and, if you look at how we spend our time, you can see our priorities: we do what we value. Certainly some actions are done out of obligation, but most of us feel free enough to regularly reject obligation in favor…

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Danger in “The One”

When we’re young (and often as we age), we dream of how some day “the one” will sweep us off our feet, be our absolute “soulmate,”and make us blissfully happy forever after. It’s what our romantic comedies are all about—that one person we’ve all been waiting for. Do a simple internet search, and everyone is thinking and writing about it.…

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Unequally Yoked

When I was dating, there was a lot of thought about finding my equal. . . No, not my equal. In fact, I was looking for my superior, for that was what I was told I needed as my “spiritual head.” (never mind the fact that “spiritual head” is not actually a biblical phrase, or that “head” often means “source”…

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Problems with Purity

The youth leader held a beautiful rose in her hand, stated that it symbolized Jane’s purity, and then proceeded to tell Jane’s story. First, Jane kissed a boy and then they broke up, so the leader pulled a petal off the rose and it dropped to the floor, diminishing the rose’s beauty. Jane dated another boy for a year, but…

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The ART of Marriage

I’m only 3.5 years into my marriage, so really not far, but would you allow me to share some thoughts on what I think helps? I’m sure I have a lot more to learn, but I think we function best when we realize that marriage is an ART. Yes, ART as something beautiful that never feels done (and honestly, doesn’t always feel…

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Breaking Up Is Good (too)

The purity culture of my youth tells me that the best love story is the one where I marry the first man I ever date. To my chagrin, I have a messy break-up with that athletic high school boy that I loved. Will I forever have second best? My sister meets a man in college, dates and marries him. As…

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