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YOLO: so don’t do anything stupid 

She told me of a sexual action she took that she knew was probably not the smartest decision. “But YOLO,” she said.  I was reminded of ROLOs, that yummy caramel center wrapped with milk chocolate. I didn’t get how ROLOs helped her to come to this unwise decision.  Suddenly needing chocolate and caramel, I asked, “YOLO?” “Yeah. . . You…

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Sex, Self-Control, and Doing What We Want

I’m of the opinion that, in general, we do what we want to do, we avoid what we dislike, and, if you look at how we spend our time, you can see our priorities: we do what we value. Certainly some actions are done out of obligation, but most of us feel free enough to regularly reject obligation in favor…

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Problems with Purity

The youth leader held a beautiful rose in her hand, stated that it symbolized Jane’s purity, and then proceeded to tell Jane’s story. First, Jane kissed a boy and then they broke up, so the leader pulled a petal off the rose and it dropped to the floor, diminishing the rose’s beauty. Jane dated another boy for a year, but…

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